Words From The (Almost) Wise…Tips On How To ‘Make It.’

Posted: July 16, 2012 in Random Daily Musings
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Now I am well aware of the fact that I have yet to ‘make it’ (whatever, that dreaded phrase really means) however I fully believe that I am edging ever closer to my final goal, albeit at apparent snail’s pace. Throughout the endless trials and tribulations I have encountered along this difficult journey, I have attempted to compile a list of things to a) keep myself going and b) to impart as ‘pearls of wisdom’ to future generations as a guide to success. They are, thus far, as follows:

Find An Un-believer.

There is nothing quite as powerful as the notion of possible failure. Should you find someone (or unfortunately be tied to someone by the forces of blood) who takes great joy and satisfaction in reminding one of the constant knock-backs and pointing out numerous disappointments, hold on to them, albeit at a safe distance.

Although, at first glance, you may cling to their every word and begin to believe their negative notions, it will, eventually, become a driving force. The idea of total failure may well be a possibility but sheer stubborn determination should refuse to allow its ugly head to rear. I have come to the conclusion therefore, that these unhelpful and pessimistic cretins can be utilised as a force to push oneself further along the path to achievement.

Positive Beats Negative

I know it sounds all a bit cliché and sticky toffee pudding-ish but the concept of a positive attitude, especially in the face of adversity (see above) work wonders. There is nothing worse than being slumped in the depths of despair, working oneself up into a raving stupor weighed under the abuse of one’s critics which inevitably prompts the serious consideration of packing it all in. (You may have gathered that I speak from experience here.) However, this does nothing for a) one’s morale or b) one’s ‘get up and bloody get on with it’ attitude.

Should yours be a repeated mantra of ‘I am going to make it, I am going to make it’ sung to the tune of ‘The Sun Has Got His Hat On’ (we can but dream) or scrawling ‘I can and I will’ across one’s bedroom ceiling like some sort of crazed lunatic, the possibilities of inspirational techniques are endless. Keep hold of this optimistic viewpoint (even if self-doubt begins to curl its witchy fingers around your sub-conscious) and hold onto it like grim death or a long-forgotten comfort blanket; never, ever let it go.


Having spent a lot of my childhood and teenage years being regarded as the ‘fat kid’ at school, I learnt the hard way that confidence is key. Regardless of whether you are a quivering wreck on the verge of melting into your new boots or your stomach has decided to purchase a never-ending ticket to some hurtling beast of a rollercoaster, it is entirely possible to appear cooler than LL Cool J on the outside.

No one notices the person cowering in the corner but all eyes are drawn to that someone who strides into a room, with their head held high greeting all and sundry with a smile, a firm handshake (none of this ‘wet fish’ business) and a polite ‘Good Morning.’ If inner confidence is not something that comes naturally, pretending to be such provides the same result. You may be dying of terror inside but no one else need ever know.

There’s nothing like hard graft.

This is rather straight-forward but it is can be very easy to sit back and wait for success to knock on one’s door. This is not, and will never be, enough. There is always more that can be done, always another contact or possibility that can be utilised. Do not be disheartened or lose confidence if, for example, you must make a detour into a temporary situation simply to realise your dream at another corner. There is nothing wrong with taking another job to finance your vision or a pay-cut to realise your aspirations. Every person who has ever reached any goal has had to graft and no doubt perform some ghastly undertaking (plucking chickens springs to mind) to pay their bills or realise some form of success.

What’s in a name?

Considering I can barely remember my own name most mornings, this is something I struggle with terribly. However, I cannot stress the importance of this enough. From the tea boy to the big dogs, try and retain the name of every person you come in contact with. I discovered this pearl of wisdom when observing the morning routine of an incredibly successful and wonderful person who not only remembered each person’s name but retained a small bit of information regarding their lives with which to engage them in conversation. Not only was the success of this person sky-high but he was exceedingly popular and could call upon anybody, at any level, for help, guidance or even a favour. This is something I will never forget.

Relax, Breathe, Live

Yes, work hard but it’s just as important to relax, remember to breathe and live every day. It is entirely possible to work 20 hours a day, 7 days a week, 365 days a year but before you have had a second to notice, your life will have sped past you in a flash of brilliance without a chance for a moment of enjoyment. Provided you are actually striving for success and not just marking a buttock-shaped spot on the sofa, ignore the critics and ‘know-it-all’s’ who berate you for ‘not working hard enough’ or lacking ‘stamina,’ it is just as important to make time for ‘thought gathering’ as it is to put them into action.   

Never Give Up

If you lie awake at night thinking about it, use every opportunity to day-dream about it, find it’s the only thing that excites your senses, causes your breath to catch, your blood to bubble excitedly through every vein and makes your heart go ‘bippety-boop’ then this dream of yours is certainly one worth chasing. A very wise man once said ‘It’s better to have tried and failed than never tried at all.’ I couldn’t agree more; never, ever give up.


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